Boo!

It seems that Halloween celebrations become more elaborate every year and definitely more scary.  The scariest thing I saw, even throughout high school, was Twilight Zone on television, hosted by Rod Serling.

I can only imagine how wee ones today manage to reconcile the horrid creatures they see everywhere they go during this season with their parent’s words of “they aren’t real.”   I suggest that you consider the age and developmental level of your child before going trick-or-treating.

As I’ve suggested before, maybe trunk-or-treat is a better choice, or harvest/fall festivals held at many churches and community centers.  If this isn’t an option for you, consider having someone remain home with your wee one while another takes an older child out into the neighborhood.

Checking out several fun Halloween books from the library and reading/sharing those together several weeks before the big night will provide opportunities for you to talk about the costumes and the trick-or-treaters who may show up at your own door.

Should you decide to take a preschooler, particularly a young one, trick-or-treating, consider a simple costume without a facemask.  Be prepared to hold and carry him should he become frightened.  And by no means should you resort to ridicule or punishment.  This will only serve to compound the problem.  You are his security and should you not be there for him when he needs you most, it could do much damage to his trust in you.

Remember, there will be lots of years, as he becomes older, to have fun with this holiday.  Concentrate on being there for any older children in the family.  Remind them not to scare their young sibling with facemasks.

As for older preschoolers, who are developmentally ready for trick-or-treating, be certain they are able to see clearly, that they have reflective tape, a flashlight, glow sticks, or the like so that they can clearly be seen by others.  Remind them to watch out for candles that are decorating homes and porches.  Walk with them to the door and never ever allow them to go into the home of strangers.

Check any treats they receive for choking hazards, foreign objects, etc.  And should you see a teal colored pumpkin, it should remind you that the treats at that home are safe for trick-or-treaters who are allergic to ingredients in some candy.  Remember, also, to provide non-food items at your home for children who are allergic to certain foods.

Slow down, and listen, are your efforts to concentrate on this month as you continue to become a gentle parent.  God bless your every effort.  Happy parenting.

©2014 Brenda Holland-Robinson